she called me on saturday and asked if i could come help her parents and her move some stuff. I jumped at the chance for two reasons, one to show her i am thre for her and two... well i missed her.
I got there and was a moving fool. I even helped her taske the stuff she didnt want to a donation site. her mom and i hugged before her parents left and er mom eared up and tol me she loved me. I teared up and the W asked me why.
she called me on saturday and asked if i could come help her parents and her move some stuff. I jumped at the chance for two reasons, one to show her i am thre for her and two... well i missed her.
I got there and was a moving fool. I even helped her taske the stuff she didnt want to a donation site. her mom and i hugged before her parents left and er mom eared up and tol me she loved me. I teared up and the W asked me why.
she called me on saturday and asked if i could come help her parents and her move some stuff. I jumped at the chance for two reasons, one to show her i am thre for her and two... well i missed her.
I got there and was a moving fool. I even helped her taske the stuff she didnt want to a donation site. her mom and i hugged before her parents left and er mom eared up and tol me she loved me. I teared up and the W asked me why.
well she did it to ma again it feels like. so she spent the weekend telling me how saqd it is about us and how down she feels so i spend fri giving her pep talks and SAT helping her movwe. now today i ask her if she wants to do something on tuesday and she replies she already has plans.
I realise she didnt know about me planing on asking her but will she EVER work on us? it feel like sjeh can feel sad i yes I will come to her aid because im tryiong to show i care. I put her first if she needs help or time. I would love to feel like I was first pick, just once. mabey i will get invited to do something later in the week who knows but right now today I miss my wife.
That's a tough one. How would splitting the money affect her? Will she be able to pay her bills? What will it do for you? I think since you both now have your own places, it might be the right thing to do. HOWEVER, it also might make divorce that much easier.
We've had that discussion lately. H thinks maybe we should legally seperate and split our money. I'm not sure the purpose of the legal seperation though.
Me 36 Husband 35 D5 S2 separated: 10/29/07-present Served divorce papers 1/22/09 "When the world gives out beneath your feet, it is time to learn how to fly."
It wont effect her top bad, besided I would insist she fully take over the truck payment. Mabey I was just feeling likr it would make it more real for her then this is right now. Mabeuy it is just a feeble attempt tpo force her hand. I dont know. I would be fine on my end money wise but I dont want to makwe this more easy for her to D, just easyer to see the reality she is living in. I just want SOME movmeny twords me, these little get togethers were im doing all the work to plan/ be there for her are tiring. I do love the slight flirting she does when we are together, but then she retreets back into Limbo land and i have to be the one to resch out to her again.
this last time she called ME was awsome. the fact she was at a wedding and thinking about me enought to call was great. and the fact she told me i wasent there enought for her the night before, so I was able to help her move then the next day was also great. mabey i just need to " let the seed grow". my GAL is going fine, i just am lacking from this part of my life.
I get where you're coming from Marcum, but I think it would be best to hold off on the financial things. Your wife is so back and forth with what she wants, this just might put her over the edge. I can see her getting mad about this. Besides, it can be done anytime. Don't rush it now unless you're needing the extra money. You have seperate households now. Once the money is seperated, where's the connection going to come from? See what I'm saying?
Clear as mud?
Me 36 Husband 35 D5 S2 separated: 10/29/07-present Served divorce papers 1/22/09 "When the world gives out beneath your feet, it is time to learn how to fly."
