This is so true. It is hard and scary to completely let go. I've partially let go up until now as I've been praying my DBing would work, but her anger and denial have been taken to new heights.
I agree that I'm not sure there is much more I can do at this point to try and save my M. I think if this is ever to come back for W and me, it will be post-D. I don't see her coming to her senses at all until she is hit full-force w/ the ramifications of a D. She needs to lose control of D, 1/2 her retirement, have to pay me out money, etc. before she'll be able to look at anything rationally. Even then, she may very well just choose to stay angry at me. If that is the road she wants to travel, I have to let her walk it alone. I have no interest in joining her on that trip.
You also said:
Quote:
There are only four words you should say to her, "yes, no, where and when"
I'm working on using these to the best of my ability. It is still hard, but I'll get better w/ more practice.
