I don't know what is up with that. I agree it isn't normal. I am just thankful that he doesn't bring her to our (my??) church. I think I would lose it if I had to see the two of them sitting there together. Actually I think I would get up and go find a different church.
Waaaaay early on in their "relationship" when it was just the beginning of the EA, he was telling me about her and how she doesn't know the Lord and he felt like God was calling him to have a friendship with her to lead her to Jesus. Even though my H was a minister and said stuff like that a lot, I knew something was strange about it back then. I guess he thinks that by having an affair with her, he can convert her. Who knows?
Speaking of church, I talked to my pastor today and am going to call him tomorrow to set up a time I can talk to him this week. (I hope that made sense). I really have some questions about the Bible and divorce that I want answered before I proceed with things. I think I know most of the answers already, but I want to hear it from someone who I trust to know. I really think that will help me gain peace in this situation and in what I need to do.
You know I honestly thought for awhile that I would get to this point and he would come back and work on things. I didn't think I was going to have to go through with it....
Me-31 H-38 M: 5 yrs T: 7 yrs No kids Went to Prostitutes 10-1-06 Found out about OW 12-24-07 Bomb on EA/PA: 1-2-08 OW ended it with H "for good" 3-8-08 OW is back 4-19-08 H and OW tell me that they are in love 5-19-08 Filed for divorce 6-5-08 Divorced 7-2-08