Imp, Good to see you posting again. I've missed your "debatable" personality around the board.
Why would you think he would file for abandonment if she's still living in the house w/him? I never indicated that she should move out and get a job. My thoughts were for her to remain in the home and offer him up a room to move into, since it appears that he's calling and visiting more often than he normally has done in the past. I seriously doubt that he would take her up on the offer if he knew she wasn't moving out herself, unless he's crazier or more vindictive than I think he is. Of course, we know that given the situation and the way JA has been lately, Mrs. H, wouldn't make the statement. It's nice to think about doing something different, but it doesn't necessarily mean a person has to follow through on it. For example, whenever I use to receive certified/return receipt missives from my xh about nothing important, I use to think about how nice it would be run over his sorry self and put an end to the misery he as creating. Would I actually do it? No. He wasn't worth me spending time in jail.
Mrs. H will find a good attorney. I just hope that he/she is ready for the up hill battle of dealing w/her bully of a husband and will not allow his attorney to manipulate the situation even further. She's getting there, it's just taking her some time to get in touch w/the right one.
Mrs. H, I hope that tomorrow you'll be able to locate a reputable attorney and one who will stand up for you. Your lucky w/women lawyers is batting a zero average these days.
Please try to have a good day. I know you dread the ringing of the phone, but just let it ring. If it's important, they'll call back later. Spend today w/the children and just enjoy the day.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
