I don't think my H thinks of his as an A since he told me he was going to pursue her before he started spedning the night there etc. - not sure I feel the same.
You sound like you are doing great, Florie! My H is the same--b/c he said he wanted a divorce about the day he started the PA he feels it's ok to have an affair (although they had an EA before that too)! But I read of an analogy on someone else's thread a while ago, something like if someone tells you they are going to commit a crime, and then they do the crime, are they innocent of the crime? Of course not. That's very flawed logic!!! Maybe no logic at all??? Karen
My H is the same--b/c he said he wanted a divorce about the day he started the PA he feels it's ok to have an affair (although they had an EA before that too)! But I read of an analogy on someone else's thread a while ago, something like if someone tells you they are going to commit a crime, and then they do the crime, are they innocent of the crime? Of course not. That's very flawed logic!!! Maybe no logic at all??? Karen
