Jack, Here's the funny thing re a solution to the kids missing me. A week earlier W was suggesting to me that she have the kids more and I have them less because she (W) was missing them. Now she is telling me that the kids are missing me.
This is a screwed up thing we are all involved in.
M35 W37 S9 D6 M12 yrs Know 15 yrs Bomb 1/28/07 My Sitch Failure is the opportunity to start again more intelligently - Henry Ford
Are we grumpy today?!?! I can look up some nice shoes for you if it would help Maybe a nice pair of Jimmy Choo's?] [/quote]
OMG I have the giggles today. Good thing b/c I was called into work.
I love when the men are trained.
Anywhoo,
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If she wants to say something she should come out and say it. This is a huge problem with my W and at the very root of this problem. She never says what is really on her mind, she just stews in it or tells someone else and expects the problem to get solved.
Well Duh. They are all like that. They think we are mind readers. I just want to smack them in the back of the head and say spill it already jeeezus.
I didn't mean for my post to sound like you are not doing your best focusing on your D. I know you are lovey.
It is just the analysis paralysis of it all, It is a waste of time with these dorks. I know it is soo hard. You will get there.
She does not see herself as the REASON why this is all happening. They can't blame themselves, or look in the mirror, That will take effort. They are not there yet.
Thanks for the laugh sweets.
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My wife is starting to get strange. Maybe all this is finally getting to her.
When I pick the kids up and drop them off to her I have a habit of getting them a small bag of candies to have some of on the way there. I do it a couple of times a week. W hates it and asked me not to so I havne't done it as much. Admittedly, I had been doing it too much in the days prior to her asking me not to. Se was complaining that the kids didn't eat there dinner becaus I game them candy. I told her that this was not th case first of all because I only gave them a small amount and secondly they didn't eat their dinner because the day care has a habit of giving them pizza at 5:00 in the afternoon.
Yesterday, the kids were asking me if I would buy them some candy. I told them that I would see and maybe I would get them some today. So after I pick them up I got them a little bag of candy to have in the car.
After I gave it to them they told me that they couldn't eat it. I asked them why and their reply was "Mommy said she would give us a dollar if we didn't eat the candy that you bought for us."
I don't don't know why, but this really irratates me.
M35 W37 S9 D6 M12 yrs Know 15 yrs Bomb 1/28/07 My Sitch Failure is the opportunity to start again more intelligently - Henry Ford
PH, I don't think it is a power game. She has never done anything like that before. I really don't know what her motovation is. I'm guessing it is not as insideous as it seems.
M35 W37 S9 D6 M12 yrs Know 15 yrs Bomb 1/28/07 My Sitch Failure is the opportunity to start again more intelligently - Henry Ford
Today is my 12th anniversay. Happy anniversary to me!
I'm a little down about it, but mostly I accept this situation for what it is and realize that W is not well emotionally/mentally. I very much don't believe that it will last forever.
M35 W37 S9 D6 M12 yrs Know 15 yrs Bomb 1/28/07 My Sitch Failure is the opportunity to start again more intelligently - Henry Ford
