Pre-bomb 3x a week would have been too much. I felt that H would come home and want sex, while I was exhausted from dealing with the kids, cooking dinner, etc, all without any help (this is how I perceived it all). It just felt like one more thing someone wanted from me, one more thing I had to do. It was like an obligation and honestly, a lot of the fun had gone out of it for me. So 3x a week would have been 2-3 too many!
At the bomb, so much in my mind and way of thinking changed. I now see sex as fun and a way for us to connect, and not just another thing to do. Now 3x + a week is acceptable. It is so much a mind thing, at least for me it was.
