H called last night to ask me to go for a drink-ok as long as no strings attached ie. he didn't expect to ML
Obviously he had a few by the time we met so having nice time laughing and talking-being very affectionate and loving towards me but know he is just trying to get into my pants
then he whispers in my ear that he loves me!!
I ask him in what way? As mum to his kids or in a romantic way. Didn't really get a straight answer.
Then he's back on the rollercoaster-crying about what he's gave up-back to feeling me up-crying.
My heart really does go out to him as he is so confused.
He said I never had time for him when we were together- there was always other people to see to-we have 3 children and a large extended family who are always calling by,coming to stay or on the phone-he said he wanted me-just me-without any other distractions but I always was busy with other things.
I know now I did get my priorities wrong and will do things differently in the future-I told him this
H phoned this morning-I've always kept my cards close to my chest and don't mention my intentions to save my marriage so decided to be brutaly honest with him - yikes!!
I told him I was still open to trying to save oour marriage -I could see how we let it breakdown but I felt that we were worth fighting for.
But only if he truly wanted it not just because his new life didn't work out
He replied that when he told me he loved me last night that I didn't say it back-and that he didn't think that I loved him-I reminded him that the last time I told him that I loved him he told me I was desperate {I was-it was when he was leaving}
He said he wasn't sure about working on the marriage and that he needs to think about it
Anyway he goes on to tell me that he has been on a couple of dates with some-one but it was making him more confused as he feels guilty because of me and he does't want to hurt anyone else
H is typical of other MLCer's on this boards as in he has never expressed himself emotionaly-his dad died when he was 10 and his mum leaned on him heavily for emotional support.
He has often said during this crisis that he has never felt properly loved
My question for any-one out there is should I tell him that I love him
I know I took a gamble and I cried when I came off the phone but I kinda feel liberated.
Thanks for stopping by-any advice would be greatly appreciated
