H and I had a productive talk last night. He said "I so want you to be ok. I will do everything to make you ok". He is in a good place at the moment. We talked about the house I want on the street. He said he will help in any way, and offered to sign (in the D agreements) that he will pay off my car, pay for the D, and help with my house bills after the D. He ran numbers for me, and will help me write up a contract for this new house. Offered to help me stay in our house now, but I don't think I could afford it. Don't want to be totally house poor. Plus staying in my 'marital' house is wearing on me. I want to make something my own. My primary goal was to keep the girls on our street, and getting this other house will do that.
Two huge goals I have to do this week:
1. Make a mediation appt (blecky)
2. See a mortgage professional and write a contract for this house.
H wants to help me every step of the way, and I welcome the help. We had another discussion about him feeling comfortable if we moved. I want him to come and go (with boundaries obviously) to care for the girls so they can be in their beds on school nights next fall. He promises to try feel welcome and I will be committed to helping him feel that way. I wouldn't even care if he had a key.
I was planning on taking the girls to his brothers house tonight for a big party. He approached me last night and asked if it would be ok if he joined the party after he got off work. This is HUGE. He has been avoiding his family for months. I told him that would be fine, the girls would be thrilled to see him.
