Somehow, you have to show her you're vulnerable too.
And that -- if she comes back to you -- you will FORGIVE her, and not take her affair and "lord it over" her for all eternity.
In your marriage (pre-affair), do you think she perceives you as a forgiving person? What have you done or said SINCE the affair to let her know (and believe) that you can forgive her?
Do you believe YOURSELF that you can forgive her and get past her adultery?
