I Don't get it!!!

[sparkie]

I tell her this is not about control it is about curtesy(sp). that she should have let me know that she was going to be out.

This one really hits home with me Lee. It must be one of those "Venus / Mars" things. In the past, I've explained to my W until I'm blue in the face that I am not trying to "check up" on her or control her in anyway by wanting to know where she is all the time. I just need to feel safe knowing that she's alright if she isn't home within an expected time. I also like to know that I'd be able to reach her in case of an emergency.

I'm not sure of the statistics, but I'd be willing to bet that there are more crimes against women than men. In the past, needing to know my W's whereabouts wasn't due to my distrust of her, it was my distrust of others. Now after finding out about my W's PA, I'll have even more concern for her whereabouts in the future.

Maybe some of you ladies out there can shed some light on this "controlling" behavior of us men.