My coach knows the entire situation and I basically catch her up each ime we talk. She is good about walking me through what is working and what isn't, making suggestions for 180s, helping me figure out how to handle certain situaions, giving encouragement, etc. I keep a journal of things I have tried or how I have acted and how he has reacted (or not reacted). At this point, we have so little contact (even though he still lives here), and he is so mentally checked out, that I talk to her more about how I can work on myself etc. She has also been insightful on the OW - explaining that these people rarely have any boundaries, the relationships can often be short (don't I wish!) and that eventually the 'honeymoon' phase will be over and they will see each other for who they really are.
Brokenheared - I am sorry that you have had to endure not only the initial shock of him moving out but then the added news of the A. I feel like I got all my news up front. I don't think my H thinks of his as an A since he told me he was going to pursue her before he started spedning the night there etc. - not sure I feel the same. I wil visit your post and leave my comment there :o)
Yesterday I ran my 5k, went to a movie and then out with friends. I got home around midnight and he was not here. I heard him roll in about 2:30am and am sure he was with OW. I am not looking forward to him moving out, but I know it will be better that I won't have to be aware of every minute he is with her when he is not here and out late.
I think I will go out and weed my flower garden and then maybe go to a friends house later. Deep breaths!
Me 32/H 32 M 3yrs/T 8 yrs 0 kids and 1 dog Bomb 5/15/08 - wants to end it to pursue OW Seeing OW and moving out 7/08
