Very difficult to progress if the OW is still lingering. Nonethelees some positives ..... your husband seems to be reacting to you going dark...keep it up (maybe a little more darkness). Never show your anger and keep doing the little things that he hopefully appreciates (do them with a smile even though you feel like telling him to you know what). Maybe you should have said no to dinner (DB tactic) but you had a good time and you got a pat on the head.... I see nothing but positives in what you wrote above. Keep it up.
