I'm sorry you're feeling pants today too. I was feeling a bit like that yesterday- just wanting this to be over.
Anyway, I think you should send the text. IMHO, what you've been doing so far hasn't been working as well as we'd have liked in bringing you H back. If that is the ultimate goal, I think it'd be a good idea to try something different; make him feel safe to speak to you and that you want to speak to him.
I sometimes wonder whether my H feels so ashamed of himself that it makes it difficult for him to approach me/reach out. For MLCers especially they need reassurance and a 'safe place' so to speak. So I would try reaching out and see what happens. Bear in mind that it might take a little while of sustained reaching out to make him feel safer around you though......
I think I'm saying the same thing as K. What are your goals for your R with H?
