Can totally relate, since W left I HATE being a phone dad to D11. WAS's have no concept on their selfishness and what it does to everyone elses lives. But don't go down that cheeseless tunnel, not worth your time. When it comes to being available for the kids all else goes out the window.
In these types of situations document it if you can, write it down in a journal you have to CYA yourself if it comes to the worst this will help you in the eyes of the law. It's not being mean to W, it is looking out for what is best for your kids!
You really need to take a different frame of mind right now, not one of husband but as father, don't tell her you are doing this just do it please. Think of the kids and what is best for them nothing more nothing less.
Continue to work on yourself, have you gotten the books yet? If so read them and reread them, then you will get an understanding.
Stay calm, breathe, detach, work on yourself, be the man you need to be your doing okay. Get the crying under control, you can't show this side of yourself like I told you before, go somewhere else, go for a drive, go outside, go for a walk whatever it takes to not show it in front of W or kids.
