I haven't been around in a while and wanted to check in. Sounds like you need a little two by four here Lee! I do agree with holdingon but would like to add some things.
Seems everytime I check on you you are complaining about the same thing (sex). It's good to vent here but I was wondering if maybe some of that isn't coming through w/your W? Frustration and maybe a little resentment are hard things to hide.I know you have every right to feel the way you do but maybe you need to go back to DB basics and put yourself in W's place.
Is she feeling pressured from you to have sex?? From a womens point of veiw, pressure to have sex does not make you want to anymore at all!It's the same with everthing- the more pressure the less you want to. It takes all the fun out of it. Maybe she's not getting what she needs from you to feel loved? Sex for most women is more about feeling loved then just sex (IMHO)Its a way to express love but you have to be getting your tank filled first. What fills your W's love tank?
You said "I just want her to do these things and they aren't happening" So what can you do to change that?? Have you been going down cheeseless tunnels with this? Maybe you should reread DR and get some ideas.
I also wanted to echo what holdingon said- you were the first person to post to me also and I can't thank you enough for all the help and support you gave me! Good luck Lee- I'm thinking good thoughts for you!
