Is it summer, or is there a piecing melt-down going on?
Lee, I can so relate to the impatience and the not seeing changes and feelig like we are the only ones doing the work. I could vent for at least five pages here, but I read other people's situations and gain strength from their patience and understanding of their spouses.
So only advice is dig deep and look at all the good in your W and think only loving thoughts about her. Some days they are harder to find, but should find some to put a smile on your face.