I agree with Bworl and YR. Set a boundary about him talking to her while at YOUR house. FW talked to OW a couple of times while he was with me. Once he called his parents and told them that she was going to be on the news and to watch it while he was at my house. I told him I did not appreciate it and to not do that kind of thing anymore. He never did.
Sophie - I've read from another source that many times they will totally backpedal if you all of a sudden start agreeing with them enthusiastically about the divorce. I don't know though. It was never something I wanted to try. I did tell FW that I would not stand in his way if it is what he really wanted, but that I would not help him in any way either. He was going to have to do all the leg work, find babysitters for our kids (and it was NOT to be OW), etc etc.
BFM
There is only one person who could ever make you happy, and that person is you. David Burns, Intimate Connections
