Frankly, I am just grateful that he is finally in the "here and now". For the last six months it was like he was here, but not mentally. Now he is participating in our lives. He still isn't "all the way home" mentally, but I can tell he is more in tune with being here instead of wishing he were there. I am not going to push hard, I am just going to try to keep our home a fine place to be, and hopefully, he will remember that he does really want to be here. There is no doubt in my mind that he hadn't went down there planning on tearing us apart, he never hid finances or tried to start fights, and those things. He simply withdrew from how he used to be. It is still alittle stiff feeling between us but I can ask questions when I want and I feel he is giving me the best answer he can without feeling like I will be totally crushed. Since he doesn't know what I already know, I think he thinks he is being kind.
