I haven't caught up with your thread yet, but I will as soon as I can.
My H's MLC began in 2004 when he started an affair with a woman 26 years his junior. I found out about the affair in July 2005. That's when we separated, he started drinking heavily and became a man I didn't know (and didn't want to know).
He didn't show any true remorse until January 2007. Up until that time, he was like your H in that he would make the occasional remark about his terrible behavior -- but showed no real remorse.
He doesn't drink anymore. He lost 3 jobs because of his drinking and lots of related legal problems that I won't get into here. He had to learn the hard way. Hopefully your H won't be as reckless as mine.
