Wow...your story rings so true and familiar.

My H has not shown such remorse...when in a heated discussion, he blurts 'Of course I feel bad, sometimes I can't function becasue of the pain I've caused!'

But, nothing changes.

It must have been something...for your H to reach out and to express his regrets so deeply! My H has said he doesn't deserve to be here....and of course, that I deserve better.

I know my H drinks to forget...or to not feel. My H is VERY lucky he has never had a DUI...really lucky.

Your story inspires me, I hope that doesn't sound bad....maybe I should keep my cell phone on at night!

Does your H never drink? Or does he drink responsibly now?


Sophie

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Me-50
H-38
Married 15 years 8/7/08
D8
S10
S13
H affair 11/04-7/04 maybe longer
H moved out 4/06

7/30/08- present: Reconnecting w/kids,friendly
10/30/08 H signed D papers
11/10/08 D papers filed
11/13/08 D papers served at home