I'm curious about the 'retreats'....mine does that..he is retreating now, I think.

He knows he hurt me on my birthday, but instead of making up for it, he retreats.

I don't interrupt his space...at all.

How did you H come out of his cave?

Did you H call you during his late night breakdowns?

Do you know what went on inside of him during his times of distance?

I think my H drinks and works, works then drinks.

Sophie

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Me-50
H-38
Married 15 years 8/7/08
D8
S10
S13
H affair 11/04-7/04 maybe longer
H moved out 4/06

7/30/08- present: Reconnecting w/kids,friendly
10/30/08 H signed D papers
11/10/08 D papers filed
11/13/08 D papers served at home