Quote: I would like to talk to her about the 5 LL book but right now I dont think she would be receptive to it. She is of the opnion that how could that help. I am going to keep that option open though.
in a way you have already started to talk to her about the book without talking about "the book". you asked how she felt loved and she asked how you felt loved.
my is not one to read books...and honestly isn't much interested in them..he's of the school that it'll mean more if he figures it out himself rather than reading it in a book..and yes I can see some sense in that thinking...I however am the book reader...I'll admit I haven't read my whole copy of the 5ll's but I think I've managed to figure out mine and h's.
a while back in a conversation (ok in more than one conversation) I mentioned the "concept" of ll's to him..using his and my ll's as examples...at first I thought it went over his head...and sure I got some of the old "that's just the way I am" kinda talk, wich relates to your w's saying that it's hard for her to show you in your ll.
but ya know what?! the more I speak h's lang...the more open he is to letting me speak my own (physical touch) the more I thank him when he speaks his lang..the more he tries to speak mine (qt)
so then...it really isn't all that necessary for w to read the book or even know the title...simply continuing to learn yourself about the ll's and discovering her's and hearing and appreciating when she "speaks" it...may motivate her more to accept yours and speak it in return.
