He left then Cheated ---Now What???

[No Longer BH]

I really need some advice here as to what to do. I know from reading all of the post that I HAVE to stop persuing him. I know it does not work. I was wondering if I should send this email or not:

Dear H,

I want to tell you about my day yesterday because I think it is very relevant to both of us. First, S and I went out on the boat with my family. As the sun was shining on my face and the wind was blowing in my hair, I noticed a small smile creep out. After an hour of being in "the moment" a small storm blew upon us. We began to race back to the dock in the pouring rain. The next thing I know I am laughing out loud with pure joy. Once we were in the truck driving back to the house, I started to observe my B and SIL. She was nagging and complaining and being down right grumpy. I thought is was sad that she too could not have just enjoyed the moment. Later on in the evening, SIL and I went to Murray's (a local jazz club) with some of her friends. I have to admit that at first I did not want to go. You know, I'm glad I did. While there I met a very nice gentleman who owns a mid size archetichural firm here. We started to talk and he bought me drinks, and the next thing I know they are shutting down the bar. As we departed he handed me a card with his number and asked me to call him sometime.

Now, I am telling these things to you because I want you to know what they meant for me. First, you have not taken my ability to feel joy away. Even though you have hurt me deeply, I now know that I can still smile. Seond, I was a great wife. Yes, I made many mistakes, but everyone does. I loved you deeply and wanted to make you happy. I was not the controlling nag that so many women turn into. Finally, I got my confidence back. For so long I did not feel preety enough, thin enough or good enough. I now know that I am a catch. I will not end up alone because I am also a very loving person. The number of friends and the depth of those friendships show me that.

So what does this mean? It means that I am letting you go. I am no longer going to try and and "win" you back. That is beneith me. Instead I am going to keep moving forward focusing on my life. If one day you can reconize that what we had was good and want to work on it, then give me a call. Otherwise feel free to live however you want because that is what I am going to do.


--What do you think? Please respond someone.