Well I had a pretty good week end. It seems as though my W is starting to come around a little bit more. She has actually been talking about having a baby and stuff. Im thinking about this I am not totally sure about it.
Anyway on sunday I kind of popped a R talk. Got the guts up and just went for it. I asked her what 4 things make her feel loved by me. I think it caught her off gaurd a little bit. She said when you say I love you I know you love me. When I ask for something and you just jump and get it it shows me that you love me. She also said you keeping your job shows me that you love me. Right now those are the only 3 that I can think of. From what I remeber though she was all over the chart. Im really not sure how to take these things.
Then she asked me what are my 4 things I told her that getting hugs, and kisses and touching and that kind of things show me that you are loving me. Then she said how can someone like me who has body issues and anxiety issues be doing these kind of things. Then she said that How can she also keep up with that with some one who is so needy 75% of the time. That one really stung. She said that she is really not that needy and just knows that she is loved.
Then I asked her what happened back then and why she freaked out then. She talked about how she saw other people going out with there H, having fun and seeing people who were divorced and haveing fun. She also had just lost 50 lbs and that she realized that she could meet other people and so on so forth. I find this intersting being on saturday she told me that all of those people that she was hanging out with were losers and anybody who hangs at the clubs all the time are losers and such.
She then told me how all of my issues and such are so tough that me needing touch is so hard. I just thought all my issues. I cant believe that she is in so much denial about what she is doing and thinking. I really think she needs to get to a doctor about her anxiety and body issues because as I see it now she isnt moving forward.
I dont believe that our marriage can move forward with out her getting some help. During our convo I just listened and validated her feelings. I didnt just yell HELLO lady I am the one who needs help? What the hell are you thinking. But I didnt I kept my cool and just validated.
So that was my convo I hope it wasnt to confusing any hope you all had a good weekend.
