H's paycheck came in the mail today. I had called his boss and told about the affair a few weeks ago and asked that his checks no longer come to the house. So I called H's cell phone and left a message saying that his paycheck was here and he needs t come get it before I throw it away (wouldn't do that, but it sure was tempting).

So about an hour later H shows up. By the way, he was wearing one of my tshirts. That was a little strange. I asked him if we could talk or if he was busy. He said he could talk if I made it quick. So standing in the doorway I told him about the lawyer and the settlement (without giving away the amount or the details). He said that he thought divorces took a long time. I explained how ours could be done over the summer because we don't have very much property and no kids. I told him that I wanted to give him one more chance before I go to the lawyer this week to make up his mind and leave the OW for good. He said that he was going to need to think about it. Used the excuse of his school and work and stuff. I told him that I knew all that but if he can't decide then that tells me that he is going to stay with the OW. I then said that there was plenty of men out there that deserve me and I am ready to move on. He looked so sad when I said those things.

He said something about how hard all of this was and I sais, yes I know...this is the hardest thing I have ever done in my life. And then I closed the door and he got into his car and left.


Me-31 H-38
M: 5 yrs T: 7 yrs
No kids
Went to Prostitutes 10-1-06
Found out about OW 12-24-07
Bomb on EA/PA: 1-2-08
OW ended it with H "for good" 3-8-08
OW is back 4-19-08
H and OW tell me that they are in love 5-19-08
Filed for divorce 6-5-08
Divorced 7-2-08