I'm slowly figuring out what I need from H and I have told him one small part of what I need. I like when he calls me from work to just say hi. I told him this: It means a lot that you take time from your busy day to call me. It is the only thing I have said and he is now making an effort to do it.
So, there is the part of DR that says, just ask for what you want. I would take just one small thing, something she maybe does already, just not as much as you need, as tell her how much it means to you. And then monitor results.
