Somehow I had a feeling that you may not want to come back here, but honestly I wasn't upset with you or anything like that and also I hadn't realised that there was an ongoing debate elsewhere that had got your emotions going but anyway let me put it simply and clearly "Don't leave me now !!!" our work is not done. I am forever in your debt for you leading me through some really dark days, and just cos I can see a lot more clearly now doesn't mean I don't need your input to stop me messing up. And yes I do feel like your adopted son, only now I've turned into a bit of a naughty teenager.
OK let me explain the trip to Barcelona, firstly I won't be using it as a second honeymoon, for marriage repair, or as neutral territory to indulge in deep R talk. Quite simply W loves the idea of Barcelona and Spain and I had promised to take her there before and I've let her down so many times, mainly cos I had used it as my weapon of choice, give her the big build up then cancel at the last minute. Naughty Lan , yes but that's what I used to do in the past.
I had a past conversation with Kalni where we both discussed that throughout our separate marriages we've never celebrated our wedding anniversaries properly and also as I told you W wasn't overly excited by her birthday surprise (even though I did a good job) so I decided to plan well in advance and do something for our wedding anniversary.
Now Sandi, as you so rightly pointed out some people (including W) find the planning stage as the most exciting part of the trip, so today I showed W the bookings and can you imagine my disappointment when she had a rant at me for spending money we can't afford. This year she wanted to plough all our money into decorating and renovating the house. Now normally a reaction like that would set me off, but I just offered to cancel the trip, which W actually asked me to investigate. When I told her no refunds are offered for straight cancellations she just resigned herself to going. Well it's not all as bad as it sounds cos now W just wants to talk about the trip and how we are going get there and how we are going to make it work. I'm starting to feel her excitement. So this will not be an R trip in any shape or form. It's about the two of us getting away, having a cultural break and enjoying the Catalonia region of Spain, something we've both always wanted to do.
Finally (for all) although it may sound like I'm constanly seeking R talk with W that is defiantly not the case, I get frustrated but I just get on with things.
Lan
PS
FG, My naughty teenager is just messing with your drama queen.
