Seems to me that you are "floundering around" because you still feel your wife is intent on divorcing at some point in the future. Is that right? Or maybe it's just because she has not in any way given you indication that she's begun to change her mind.
I too agree that the pace of your "fun" right now is not sustainable for the long haul. At some point life will return to something closer to what the normal pace was for the two of you. I think that will be a very telling time for you in your wife's eyes.
It's easier when both parties are throwing themselves completely into finding joy and happiness with each other. The reality of life is that there are normal days, down days, and high days. You're existing on a steady diet of high days right now. Who will YOU be when you both return to the normal or even down days?
I expect she'll be watching closely.
The issues here that you shared in this thread (I have not yet read the others that FG linked here) are issues that I think you very clearly could use counseling on. Otherwise, they will return.
I'm dropping the word princess from my posts, because I don't think that NDS ever really was treating his wife like a "princess" in the current connotation of the word.
He has been treating his wife like a woman that he loves and revels in. A woman that he cherishes being with. I don't see that he has overindulged her or allowed himself to be made less in order to give her what she wants. Honestly, to me, with the exception of NDS's desire to see her changing her mind, it seems that he has enjoyed this time as much as she has.
So what IS the problem NDS?
Your wife appears happy with the new you. So why are you NOT happy?
Bill
That about sums it up....I have not got to the point where I can work on this unconditionally....I am on the outside, believe me. I truly believe my doubts have not shown on the outside. She has been the one to give me the reminders about not getting my hopes up. I have not once asked her how she feels about us, or if her feelings have changes.
When the subject came up, I listened. I told her that I would not fight her and we were on her schedule. That was the end if it.
Is it wrong to WANT to feel some assurance from her? I am NOT pushing and I am NOT pursuing...
...and I know the pace cannot be sustained. If you read the posts that was really my early concerns.
I wondered if it was the right path and everyone told me "enjoy the party"...."things sound great".
Those have always been my worries....the real world creeping back in. Those are actually things we DO talk about, while avoiding R talk, but as you have seen, no progress.
That is my current goal...getting back to the grindstone with home projects, etc. There are many things I know she wants done that will put a smile on her face as we progress.
Right now I am giving up on keeping up with you guys. There are probably more posts since I started this one.
