Seems to me that you are "floundering around" because you still feel your wife is intent on divorcing at some point in the future. Is that right? Or maybe it's just because she has not in any way given you indication that she's begun to change her mind.
I too agree that the pace of your "fun" right now is not sustainable for the long haul. At some point life will return to something closer to what the normal pace was for the two of you. I think that will be a very telling time for you in your wife's eyes.
It's easier when both parties are throwing themselves completely into finding joy and happiness with each other. The reality of life is that there are normal days, down days, and high days. You're existing on a steady diet of high days right now. Who will YOU be when you both return to the normal or even down days?
I expect she'll be watching closely.
The issues here that you shared in this thread (I have not yet read the others that FG linked here) are issues that I think you very clearly could use counseling on. Otherwise, they will return.
I'm dropping the word princess from my posts, because I don't think that NDS ever really was treating his wife like a "princess" in the current connotation of the word.
He has been treating his wife like a woman that he loves and revels in. A woman that he cherishes being with. I don't see that he has overindulged her or allowed himself to be made less in order to give her what she wants. Honestly, to me, with the exception of NDS's desire to see her changing her mind, it seems that he has enjoyed this time as much as she has.
So what IS the problem NDS?
Your wife appears happy with the new you. So why are you NOT happy?
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
