Hi Lee, Like dfb said, you have made incredible progress towards rebuilding your M, but like a puzzle, when "piecing" you have to find the right pieces before trying to put them together. You have found the pieces that worked to attract her to you again. Now, you have to find the pieces that build on that bond so she knows she has made the right decision to stay. This is going to take more time. 1 year of piecing and I still don't have all the pieces yet.
... and when you come across a piece that doesn't work, put it aside for now. Don't repeatedly try to force it to fit. The puzzle won't ever be complete if you try to force a piece where it doesn't work. It may belong in another part of the puzzle, so let it go for now and when you get to that part, then it will be appropriate to use that piece.
"Piecing" is still a transition stage ... the pieces are being put together now more than being pulled apart but there are still holes to fill in. Use what you know fits, put aside of what doesn't for now, but know sooner or later, you will get to use all the pieces before completing the whole picture of what an M should be like.
