You are right IMLin about the not doing too much, but there is nothing wrong with being a friend. A friend means support when you are down, giving encourgement, doing things toghether on occasion. How do you reconnect without being a friend first?
The WAS needs to feel it is safe to come home and not feel rejected if they did want to try to open that door again.
Still hoping it's not about the R, it's about family time and being a friend. If you have the expecatation that this will lead them home or you are now going to have a R, then you have it all wrong. Ask yourself, wouldn't life be better if you are friends with h rather than fighting or have feelings that we can't even talk about the kids without getting our emotions out of wack. Just some thoughts!
Maybe just maybe down the road they may want it to work.
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"
