Hey Gris. You know, I think this is just a natural progression in Piecing, as I felt the same way after my W "came home." I felt exhausted after working so hard to bring her back, then after she's back I "expected" certain things because we were officially "on" again. Thing is, Gris, that this stuff takes time. Rather than focus on what you're NOT getting from your W, perhaps focus on letting go a little bit. You don't have to DB with such intensity any longer, so you can start to kick back ever so slightly. This will relieve some of the pressure you're feeling, and probably your W will sense this shift and feel more relaxed around you.
I know what you mean about the sex. I tend to focus more on this myself, and not as much on the other physical things she's doing for me. Only recently have I begun to reevaluate this.
Just try and relax a bit. Back off the the DBing intensity, and let her come to you. Over time I very much believe you'll be getting more positive responses from your W about your needs.
