How about a break for you, Lee. Can you think of something to focus on besides what's going on right now? Can you get out and do something on your own one day, to take your mind off of all this? I can't imagine the flood of emotions you must be having. It's got to be so difficult to hold them in and keep acting as if, but I agree w/the others - do you feel you could make a good decision in this state you're in? The idea of cutting back a little on initiating any kind of touch w/her sounds good. You could "validate" her physical displays of affection for you, when she cuddles, etc., by responding to her. Kind of like listening instead of talking, and then validating what she "says" to you. Am I making any sense? Not sure. Maybe taking a break from initiating every physical contact would help you step back, give her some time, and keep you from feeling like you're doing all the work? Sorry you're hurting so much! (((Lee))) Hang in there - come here to vent. We're all pulling for you ~
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"Somehow we survive, and tenderness frustrated does not wither." Dennis Brutus, South African poet
"That which does not kill us makes us stronger."
Friedrich Nietzsche
