I very much appreciate your post and your words. I'm touched that you remembered the crazy specifics of my story. I also remember your thread, and you also had a rough time of it.
Yes,my H tried to come back too soon. He came back about 5 times. He wasn't ready but I didn't understand the process back then. He has kicked OW out of his house several times within the past year. H would be on the phone with me before she got her truck out of his driveway. The first time or two that I heard this story, I really thought she was gone for good. Nope. She kept coming back. The last time he called and told me she was "gone", I said, "Well, don't worry about, H. She'll be back tomorrow". He was quiet for a second and then said, "Yes,I guess you're right".
I think that's when he realized that he played this card too many times. I no longer believed him.
That's when some of the changes started. He began selling off his toys, paying down his credit cards, and stopped drinking.
Maybe the next time he calls and tells me that she is "gone", it will be for good. But I don't want to hear it until he is darn sure that she is history once and for all. And then it will take me another 6 months to believe it!
Until then, I will just get on with my life, and trust that it will turn out like it's supposed to .. either with H or without. Either way it will be okay.
