Is He Really Happier?

[Florie]

In answer to Puppy, we do not have any kids, which I know is a blessing. I have been as 'dark' as possible this week. I can see he has apartment hunting notes for himself so he is still set on moving out to his own place. I am not sure what OWs living situation is, but doesn't look like he is moving in with her. Moving out is basically so he can be free to come and go with her though so not a big difference.

I was surprised last night (Friday) that he didn't go out (has not gone out since Tuesday and I keep expecting him to). When I got home from work, I pretty quickly went up to my room to relax before going to bed. I thought for sure he would go out at least with his new work friends if not OW, but he stayed in/slept here. At ne point he passed by my room and stopped to tell me something he had read in a magazine that would interest me. Later I was calling the dog in from the hall (dog was being stubborn and would not budge :o) and H came up the stairs to help me with the dog and carried dog into my room for bed. At least it is ice that we can be friendly in the house together I guess. Also, a week ago when I was more chatty still (although still detaching), he was much less friendly and seemed to not want to do anything that might possibly give me hope. Not that a few passing words give me hope, but it is better than no interaction.

Today and going to run a 5k this morning, to a movie with a friend and then hanging out with friends later so hopefully I can keep my mind off of things a little. I expect he will be out looking for apartments and then out tonight as well. As karen43 says, I am REALLY trying to do my own thing and keep busy focused on myself as it does make a difference.

It is going to be hard once he gets his apartment and moves out and I am bracing for it. I think there will still be some limited contact over bills, dog sitting and general house stuff (mowing etc.), but not sure how much he will separate himself.

BTW, I have talked t one of the DB 'coaches' periodically over the phone through the paid sessions (had 4th call over 6 month span just this past week) and have found her VERY comforting. It is just nice to have someone to talk with and offer suggestions, reinforcement, advice. I always feel better after I tt her.

Off to my race :o) Thanks so much for the kind words.