Well today the W called and told me she was sad. she was at a wedding and was wondering how we went from our wedding day to this. she told me since we broke up this has sucked. I reminded her thes was a seperation not a break up. a break up is a D. I told her I am here for her, to which she replied
" thats the problem you havent been."
Folks I have been are avalibla and helpfull as a human can be. I bit back any number of comments and just said thats something we need to work on for eachother. she said she dosent know how we got here.
I then told her this seperation can be looked at in a positive light it has given me a chanch to see what i can loos and also let me grow as a person. I also said it has hopefully let my W see the changes in me at a safe distance were changes can be noticed. she told me again she was sad and I told her not to be, that i belive in her. I then gave her a police order to go dance the funky chiken!!
I dont know how to say that as of right now she is still judgeing me by the past and not by the changes im doing. she has also been the one to put distance between us. yet she still can seem to see that. DBers of the world how to i communicate this, or do i even get to? the comment of the fact I havent been there for her just seems to show that all the work I'm doing isent even getting noticed.
