My girlfriend remembered something he said way back when we first met, which was last June. I have actually known him about a year. So spilling after "so soon" doesn't quite apply. We dated last summer briefly and then started up again this spring.
He said right after he first met me that I would look really "hot in retro glasses" and then later this spring he said I would look cute with short hair.
My friend said, "How dare he try to change you. He doesn't get to do that! I don't like that he is trying to make you look a certain way." She also thought he was a little too full of himself and arrogant.
I have visited his home multiple times, his office once and met one of his daughters. I know he is divorced, and there is PLENTY about him on the internet because of his business. His home phone is in the book.
He lives in my mid-sized town and we know many of the same people.
I do think he has been telling me the truth all along that he has trouble with relationships. Duh!
I also agree (with another girlfriend) that he probably did have feelings for me and cared about me on some level.
He is just severely conflicted. And he refuses to do anything to heal himself.
As I have said, ultimately this is a good thing. Any break-up is difficult, and we weren't even that serious. I am fine. There was way WAY too much drama connected with him.
However, every single date I had with him was very very nice, and I enjoyed the time we were actually together.
It was the spaces between those times that were hard. And too long.
Thanks for the good wishes about my health!
SG
Survival Goddess "The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don't have any." -Alice Walker
