I Don't get it!!!

[holdingon]

Lee, can I smack you with the 2x4? Can I be a snot and tell you to please be grateful for what you have right now?
Your W is home.
Your W is sleeping in your bed.
Your W is going out and spending quality time with you.
Your W is cuddling with you.
Your W is telling you she loves you.
etc, etc.

Your W is not having as much sex with you as you would like. Did you read The Sex Starved Marriage yet? Can you do that, please??? You said in the past that your wife did not have as much sex with you as you wanted. So this is not a new problem, but an ongoing problem. I will say that I did this in my M, too. I NEVER understood what sex meant to my H. He would initiate or ask and I would not engage. He was not assertive and we did not discuss it. Only now, after READING do I understand how much it meant to him. You W is not necessarily trying to ignore you or make you mad, this is just what she does. It doesn't mean she doesn't love you... she just doesn't understand the importance of this to you. YOU have changed and grown. She has not.

Please go slowly. Maybe you could get the book, read it, and then read it together. Or go to a good counselor. This is not life or death. This is not be married or not be married. This is about you wanting more sex than your W wants. You two will have to compromise and I am not sure she is in a place yet where that is possible.

PATIENCE, PATIENCE, PATIENCE