What you want to say and what you should say are two different things. It is understood your pain and anger and loss of family etc. That is the last thing h wants to hear or respond well to. Even if ow read it, do you really think it would make a difference?

Me 50
H 42
S 22
S 9
D 7
M 12
T 17
H moved out 8/2006
H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks
H moved home 5/2011 for good

"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"