jonzy... WHOA!!!! Slow down man! Like HOPEFUL said it over YET, I don't hear any fat lady singing. She is speaking the truth, there are people all over these boards some are even just days away from their D's being final and they are still doing what they need to do.
Only you know when it's over in your heart, if that's your choice then so be it then you hold your head high, but I don't think that's what you want to do IMHO. As HOPEFUL said there is plenty of time to keep working on yourself.
Read the books man, they have a host of info that can point you in the direction. My W was sure that's what she wanted to do went to the lawyers I went to mine she moved out 2 weeks ago and she hasn't done anything more since then who knows what she is going to do, certainly not me, but I am getting to the point of knowing I will be okay without her. Sure it's scary it's the last thing any of us want, which all the more reason to detach, work on yourself, spend time with your kids, go out with friends become the man she fell in love with.
WAS have no direction they are running on anger and resentment, they are as lost if not more than the LBS. You haven't been at this very long Dbing is all about making yourself a better person,not so much for the WAS but for you so that you can know there is a future with or without them and becoming atractive to the WAS to make themselves start to question their decisions this has to be your focus YOURSELF.
Slow down take some time to let what has happened sink in, use the 48 hour rule, don't make a decision based on emotion. As I said in the end it is your decision and as long as you can respect yourself and feel you have done everything that you possibly could do then so be it but ask yourself that question, HAVE I DONE EVERYTHING???
I will check in on you tomorrow and see how you are doing it's going to be okay. I will see if I can get some more people over here to help.
