Is there anything left to do or do I just accept it? Could it be early MLC or is he just going to be happier with OW?
Hi Florie, welcome! I'm sorry for the circumstances, but glad you found us here! I think this is a great place with great people!
My opinion is that you can accept it or not, it's up to you and how you feel. I've read on here several times that people somehow know when they are ready to give up. I do think for me I started DBing just to "get my H back" but now DB more for myself as I feel stronger, happier, and healthier. No matter what you decide, everyone here is supportive & always seem to have great advice!
Early MLC I'm not sure; but you could read the MLC Resources posted in the MLC Section and I've found those helpful. From reading others' stories I think my H is going through a classic MLC. If you think your H is in MLC, I think the MLC section is pretty good and can be motivational (for me at least).
Is your H going to be happier with OW? My answer would be no. They say that something like 90% of affairs don't work out, so that is a pretty grim statistic. Also, it sounds like your husband, if not MLC, is definitely depressed. I suffered from depression last year, and was always looking to my H to make me happy or things like a new house. But I finally figured out after many months of therapy, DBing, etc. that only you can make yourself happy, so eventually even though your husband is looking to OW to escape his life or depression, he will find the depression return, as no OW is going to "cure" him in my opinion.
If you're interested in DBing, I recommend (as will I think most people here) the book Divorce Remedy. So far that is my favorite book, and I also like Change Your Life, also by Michele W-Davis. I would also recommend you will probably want to visit the other threads here. Lots of useful info, you'll find we seem to have lots in common, and you also will probably make some good friends here, too! Karen
