Try to make your campout special. Take lots of photos of you and the kids and try to have a good time.

Time will make things easier. Hang in there and try to enjoy the small little things around you. I know your family is recommending you date, but during D a person is very vulnerable. I don't think you should hesitate in meeting women, and thinking, "Hey, maybe if this goes through I'll date her." (I had a mental list in my head of who I might go out with when the D was final!), but working on yourself, getting healthy and working out past baggage should be number one. Here's another thought. Would you want someone in your position dating you just to "get over the ex?" I know there are people out there who don't mind that role. One of my guy friends told me it was okay for me to "use him." (LOL!!!) But non-serious female friends can be a good thing. And don't mention any of this to your W. You need to become a closed book to her.


There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.