Hey grislin. I'm happy to hear your W has "come home." I've been struggling for the last few months with what you're talking about. At first I couldn't really approach my W to tell her that I need this and that for our R to really work out. However, over time I was able to have more and more of these discussions. You'll notice that as time goes by, your W will become more comfortable with you...as she was previously. Her easing back into the R will afford you the opportunities to bring up R subjects at certain times. The clincher for me was that I eventually had my W read "5 Love Languages." It was like the lightbulb went on... Now she more fully understands what I need (because I already know what she needs).
Just give it time, give her time, and things will happen gradually as she becomes more comfortable. I know that now you've had a taste of what "could be" you want more. Stay patient, Grislin, DBing while Piecing is a whole different ballgame... I think it's important to realize that we are in a different place mentally than our Ses. We need to give them time to catch up...and some take longer than others...
