I Don't get it!!!

[rjd5974]

Watch yourself man. Don't let one action(or lack of action) from your W start you spiraling downward with negative thoughts! If you hadn't figured that out yourself since you first posted that I would've had to hit you up solid with the 2x4!

This is going to be a slow process still. As you have learned you need to change your actions. You need to start noticing what happens when you get what you want and what is happening when you aren't. Keep doing the things that get you what you want. Over time you might need to reevaluate. Things that got you positive results might not be working any longer, and you may need to think of new solutions...it's an ever evolving thing.

However, your W loves you and says so. Do not take her for granted and do not let the occasional negative thing have you thinking doom and gloom thoughts about your R(and there willl be plenty more negative things, you know this).

What are you going to do if she goes out again all night? Will that mean your M is falling apart? How can you approach that differently this time around? It's not that you should roll over and be a doormat and let her do whatever she wants with no consequence...but don't let the occasional annoyance send you downhill.

Just remember, you're in a place where many of us can only dream of being right now. Be thankful, and for godsakes, focus on those PROBLEM-FREE TIMES!