I Don't get it!!!

[holdingon]

Lee,
I have missed you! I need your positiveness! I wish you would go back over the MLC and visit my thread... I am devastated, my H moved out. Did you say your W had moved out earlier?? I would like to know.

About the sex. Have you read 5LL? I know you probably have since you have been working so hard. Also, in Michelle's book she talks about it. Anyway, what I am getting at is as a woman, I did not understand (until now) the importance of sex to a man. My H LL is physical touch, I am sure. I never could understand why this was so important to him. After all, I was giving him acts of service to show my love but he didn't get it. Michelle says, a woman would love to talk for 30 minutes, a man feels like having sex. I guess what I am saying is, IF you two are talking about R, maybe you could bring up the sex issue in this context. Maybe you could ask/confirm what her love language is... and then talk about how communicating for you really is wrapped up in intimacy.

I would not rush into a conversation like this. I am not sure if your W is in a place where she is willing to make changes in your R. But, it may be a better way to talk to her about it than to take it personally and get angry. She probably offers you a different love language. And you probably don't see it, because you want SEX.

Anyway, venting here is definitely great. Cuddling is definately great. Maybe she is a morning sex person. Another topic of conversation.

Maybe she is testing you to see if you love her or just want sex...

Actually, I don't know that I have any good advice. Like I said my H left.