It IS an innocence lost. You can rebuild the trust though.
Don't take our comments as nothing but criticism. I'm amazed at what you did and, on some levels, incredibly impressed.
I know this. Throughout my previous marriage, I did things I should not have done. No affairs or anything like that mind you, but things that hurt my ex-wife when she found out. And this is what I know from my experience. They always find out. And until they do, this kind of thing can hang over your head and affect YOU in a negative way.
Still, having said that, I waver on telling him or not.
Please do try to see a counselor alone. Talk about this, see what he/she has to say about coming clean with this. Then look in your heart and ask yourself if you will be able to deal with always knowing about this.
I pray that your husband is back on track. That this was an aberration.
Blessings,
bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
