I find that all of this is a big long process of adjustment and just when you make one adjustment, something else pops up or a new variable comes into play - anniversary, vacation, family event, whatever. Sometimes you get surprised by what hits you. On the positive side, sometimes you suddenly realize - wow, I just got thru that ok.

I think it's what you say, Julia. We have let our feelings be what they are. If we repress them or resist them, it will just be worse for us. One of the themes that keeps coming up in my reading to is to just be in the moment. . . .


me: 47
H: 48
he has 2 grown sons
M 1995(my 1st, his 3rd)
hit iceberg 6/07
S 9/26/07
before
now