just when i feel good i get knocked back. I read more from one of her guys. he was apologizing for moving to fast and she said she liked it and wanted to talk, text and see him more. I can't stand being run over again, can I please turn off her phone. I should not have to pay for this. And should i do it with out saying anything or say that I can not stand being hurt and I am done until she grows up.
Please help
JWS, I'm so, so sorry. Yes, you're right, you should not have to pay for the phone she uses to text other men. I would definitely say something about it to her first, and I would really consider if you want to say words like "I am done" unless you're really sure that you are done.
If I were in your shoes, I would say something real simple and direct, "I'm not going to pay for a phone that you are using to text other men on. It's completely disrespectful. Since you're living at my parent's house and can use their phone if you need to, and I'm paying the bills, it's not as though I'm depriving you of a phone and lots of support. If you want to text other men, get your own phone plan, I'm no longer going to pay for it."
I would be respectful and calm, and then follow through. She might be really angry that you are standing up for yourself, but it is completely reasonable that you not pay for what is really a luxury item that she is using to contact other men on.
The silver lining is that you won't have to read a text like that again. The other silver lining is that she will see that you are serious, and that she cannot expect to take advantage of your kind and generous nature without there being consequences. You are not a doormat.
It is in the shelter of each other that people live.--Irish proverb
