When she talks, listen and validate. Don't talk much.
If you want tools to communicate, that's what Retrouvaille is all about. Whether they get used is up to the two of you (my W has chosen not to) but it will give you are great tool.
Don't worry too much about how committed she is, you can't control that, anyway. If she goes, she's at least committed enough to listen, and maybe that will be enough.
